Get Blossom‘s and Amy Farrah Fowler‘s images out of your head, and try out reading Mayim Bialik’s Beyond the Sling book. If you’ve ever heard of attachment parenting or helicopter parenting, the image of an unwashed hippie in dreads with a tie-dyed baby sling with the smell of patchouli over their shoulder might come to mind. Nothing wrong with that. Patchouli gives me headaches. But people- and trends (what works and what doesn’t) have adapted just as the ways we raise our kiddos have. I like to read a lot of non-fiction, and even if I disagree or find faults with a book’s message, I’m not lost on gaining some education.
Mayim is touted in both good and bad ways for this book, written by herself as a mom of two. No one can ignore that she earned a Ph.D. in Neuroscience. And she wasn’t a baby person at all before having kids, so she’s a strong voice now for attachment parenting, La Leche League International (she’s a certified consultant), and the Holistic Moms Network.
Bed sharing and elimination communication are not for me. I might have to do some more research on the latter with bambina though… I do believe, however, that raising a confident child by gently communicating with them (no yelling!) is a great and wonderful plan. She shares a lot of the personal sacrifices she and her husband have made to create this environment for their kids. I read her book cover to cover in just a few days, and I’ve taken some small learned habits away from it that I think make me a better mom. Be sure to read her section on sharing toys at a playground- or not forcing “please” and “thank you” on her kids!